Clear View Well-Being Services
Well-being
Your well-being matters
At Clear View, we recognise that it could be all too easy to become so consumed in what is happening that you forget to take care of yourself. Like on an aeroplane, you must put on your own oxygen mask before you can look after someone else. We work on the same ethos, look after yourself and everyone around you will be just fine.
We work with Fiona Mack – A well-being specialist who uses yoga, meditation, breathwork and energy healing to help you find the right approach to take control of your own well-being. www.mackyoga.co.uk
Divorce / separation is the second most stressful life event after death of a loved one. And many would argue that is on a par with bereavement because you are grieving the ending of a relationship. It is understandable therefore that your mental health and overall well-being are likely to be adversely affected.
- Some tell-tale signs that you are not coping well:
- Sleep patterns disrupted – either unable to sleep or wanting to sleep too much
- Panic attacks – anything from mild to severe panic about things that normally wouldn’t bother you
- Breathing issues – e.g. you find yourself breathing rapidly (hyperventilating)
- Eating patterns disrupted – wanting to overeat or losing appetite completely
- Unable to concentrate or focus – anything from being able to read a page in a book to handling a work problem
- Not wanting to engage or socialise with friends/family
- Chest pains and high blood pressure
- Feeling nervous, tense, restless and anxious
- Being overly impatient and snappy – particularly with loved ones, e.g. children, friends, family
- Having a sense of hopelessness – wanting to give up, saying things like ‘what’s the point?’
If you find yourself agreeing with and recognising any of the things above, then rest assured that this is very understandable and normal. However, if you do not take control and take some steps to address these issues then you lose sight of achieving the best possible outcomes in your situation for yourself and those you love.
Resilience
One definition of resilience is “the ability of a substance to return to its usual shape after being bent, stretched or pressed”. How does this resonate with you? Are you still feeling bent out of shape?
The more resilient you are, the quicker and easier you can deal with whatever life throws at you. And the good news is that there are some things you can reflect on and then do something about to ensure you are better equipped ahead of any seen and unforeseen stressful situations.
1) Sense of Purpose
Why do you get up in the morning? Not everyone is clear about their purpose, and it is frequently something that you will need to re-define as you move through life. The stronger your sense of purpose, the better equipped you are to handle challenges and setbacks and to recover from them.
2) Positive Mental Attitude
This component is something of a balancing act, between being able to think positively about situations and events, whilst being realistic about what can be achieved. It is not about naive false optimism but involves being able to generate positive thoughts and feelings about situations. Do you have the ability to see the positive side of things without creating unreasonable expectations and subsequent disappointment?
3) Connecting with Others
People matter to all of us, so building supportive and caring relationships is essential. Your interpersonal communication skills can be an important element of your ability to be resilient, based on how you can handle difficult situations or times. It is also important to be able to ask for help when you need it.
4) Determination
How good are you at seeing things through? When faced with challenges, it’s important to adopt a ‘can do’ approach, by being proactive and taking action. This includes ensuring you finish tasks and things which you have started. Think of times in your past when you had had to deal with adversity – perhaps there were some strategies for coping which you could adopt now?
5) Taking Control
Control comes from how you think and react. It is about understanding your inner self – how you think, feel and react, and controlling this so that you develop positive patterns in the way you deal with different situations and challenges. Do you take responsibility for yourself and your actions? Are you able to recognise what challenges and situations are beyond your control and to let go of these in order to focus on the things that you can actually do something about? Knowing something and doing it are two different things – do you do what you need to do rather than just talking about it?
6) Looking after Yourself
We have all heard this this so many times. You probably already KNOW that looking after yourself should be a priority, it is common sense, but common sense is not commonly practiced!
Looking after yourself, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually are essential in order to deal with the stress of a relationship breakdown. Do you lead a healthy lifestyle? Do you have strategies and tools to help you deal instantly with difficult or stressful situations? Are you able to relax your body and mind so that you can see problems or difficult scenarios in a calm and clear way? Finding some simple techniques that work for you will help you keep things in perspective.
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